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Interesting article on sex/love/infidelity/relationships and Dan Savage

Hey love,

I hesitated about sending this, in case you’re thinking this is a sign that I’m already asking to have an affair (what?) but after I read the whole thing, I just think it’s so interesting. I love stuff like this – smart, thoughtful people, all discussing love and culture and relationships and how things are changing (or staying the same). Anyway, it’s not a quick read but it’s not super long either – whenever you have a few minutes. Check it out!







signed, sealed, delivered

I really like this one: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/4-simple-steps-to-freedom/

freedom from fear and worry and self-imposed impression and sw(h)irl of thoughts and inaction/procrastination takes work! but it can be really fun work. engaging together 🙂

am hoping my ankle is well enough to bike at your parents’ place. do i need to bring a helmet? can’t believe it’s only 10 days away!! so pumped. like a bicycle tire. ooh, that was a bad one 😉

okay okay sleepytime. had fun with brian and sheila and their friend jill tonight. she is doing long-distance with a boyfriend in san fran, and it’s tough sounds like. so excited to be present with you, and glad it’s for a long-ish chunk there, and then even LONGER here. yes! and fun fam travels ahead. but, am staying in the present. breathe in, breathe out.

sleep well and mucho love. how are the paragraphs? oh! i heard this community/site is great and their listserve has tons of great stuff: http://www.yepdc.org/join.html

Ahh! and I just ran across this: http://allthingszilla.wordpress.com/2010/07/page/2/ Did you know Bret? He’s in my thesis film. I was his head sponsor when he was a sponsor. He went to Berkeley High School and made a really funny movie and really fun music album all in high school, both of which I haven’t seen eclipsed on small scale humor. Does’t make sense I? Anyway, I haven’t read too much of the blog but first glance looks good.

gonna meditate meself to sleep. three day week ahead. then three day weekend. then four day week. then 9 days and nights in northern California contigo. life is so good.


Thoughts, love?




I know you have lots to do besides read my articles and listen to my songs….only if you have a moment!

Looking at pictures of us this morning makes me really happy. I’m so excited to see you.


What I’m Listening To Today (thinking of you)

Do you like them too? 🙂

Off to shower and salsa!




What I’m Reading Today

Hello You! Today is July 2, which means we only have 12 more days until I pick you up at the Oakland airport and take you home for a wonderful week in the Bay. So excited. 😀

Check out this article, when you have a sec: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/set-yourself-free-3-ideas-to-become-more-conscious/

Here’s what I want to remember, speaks to some of what we’ve talked about too:

A life that is lived unconsciously becomes blunted and gray. It is lived in a repetitive cycle that becomes increasingly harder to break out of the older we get. It requires the ability to allow yourself to become a little bit uncomfortable from time to time, and as our era of convenience rages on, it’s becoming harder and harder for people to do.

Consciousness is about awareness: being alert to details, being in the moment, and most of all, simply being awake! Like everything else, it is something that is learned. It’s a habit we get into.

There are many different ways to awaken consciousness. Here are some of my personal favorites:


One of the main reasons why we are able to live unconsciously is because the element of fear has mostly been eliminated from our day to day existences.

How comfortable is your life exactly? If there’s nothing that challenges you, nothing that causes even the slightest bit of fear or trepidation, you are probably living underneath the surface of your life.

Challenge yourself. Do something out of the box. Take up white water rafting or mountain climbing. Sports are great for being in the moment, and the fear of losing the game is what drives you forward.


Traveling changes your basic viewing process. It rips you out of your head and your agenda and forces you to just focus on the world around you again.

After a while your expectations slowly drop away. Things expand. You’re not the center of the universe anymore. You become part of the world instead of a little bubble floating along in it.

Travel requires you to be a little bit vulnerable. You have to face numerous fears about being in a new place, not knowing where to go or what will happen next. You have to put yourself out there and trust that everything will be OK.


This is the most well-known way to cleanse and awaken the mind, and yet many people shy away from it. Meditation doesn’t have to happen alone in a quiet room.

My personal favorite form of meditation is action netball. When I’m on the court everything else just falls away and I become completely present and aware of only one thing: the ball! By the time the game finishes I’m exhausted and humming in a cleaned out sort of way. It’s beautiful.

Being conscious and aware is about opening your eyes to the world again, looking outside of yourself instead of always leaning into your own interior world. Step out of your bubble of existence and really take a good hard look at the world around you again. What do you see? Can you look at it without an agenda, without a preconceived idea in your head?

Freedom really is all up in your head. You have built your own cage and the keys are in your pocket.

No one can make you think a certain way. You have the power to change your own experience of the world if you can let go of your own preconceived storyline and allow the world to unfold around you.

We truly are our own keepers.